I want it UP. And, it's gotten long, so there's a lot of it. My stylist seems to think my first choice hair-do is do-able, so this is what we're shooting for, with a cathedral veil to go UNDER the (for lack of knowing a better word) "bun". (The veil will come out for the reception.)
And, I found some AWESOME hair flowers on Etsy from seller VirginiaGeiger'sJewels. I actually only bought 3 flowers, though. She's super helpful about custom making them however you want. It's up to my hairstylist where to put them.